The noise on twitter over a supposed rape by the pastor of a popular church got me worried as is always the case when I hear stories of “men of God” who fell from grace and got caught. The few people I tried to interact with on the topic didn’t give me much so I decided to ask for the link itself which I got.
Knowing the way misinformation spreads on social media, I wasn’t surprised to find that what actually happened was much different. Anyway, that’s besides the point.
Whether the story is true or not is another matter, though it certainly has a familiar ring to it knowing the kind of country we live in. Ese Walter’s confession is a microcosm of what actually happens in many religious organizations. Things are that bad now.
However, the tone of her writing had not an iota of remorse but stinks of bitterness; the bitterness of a woman who feels used, not abused. There was something very carefree and vindictive about her confession that raises serious doubts as to the motive she declared. I saw a woman who’s heart was torn to shreds and so desperately wanted to get her pound of flesh back that she didn’t give a fuck about anything again – pardon my french.
Before I continue, I know someone is already saying, “Here’s a COZA voltron!”. Wrong! I’m not a member of COZA, neither am I defending Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo. Didn’t even know what the COZA acronym stood for till this evening. The name Fatoyinbo rang a bell but I knew nothing about him so I visited google. I don’t even know what he looks like but I’ve heard of COZA because I was impressed by one of their worship centers I happened to pass by when I visited Abuja.
In fact, those who know me well know that I have never hidden my distaste for all these “funky” new generation churches that believe the Bible has become too old fashioned and needs to be modernized to suit the needs of the newer generation…
Back to my analysis of Ese Walter’s confession.
I noticed in Ese, a similar trend of what I’ve always complained about in many Christian worshippers in Nigeria. How people transmute an unseen God into the form and image of the pastor has forever baffled me. A testament of what I call “god-objectification”. It is peculiar to christians who learn to accept whatever their preacher preaches to be the gospel truth, even when the Holy Bible says otherwise.
If this confession was written by someone who had no knowledge of good or evil, a status I can only ascribe to a baby, I would have believed her motives to be noble. However, she stated she was already doing a Masters program in the UK when this supposed “abuse” began which would mean she is was way above 21 age wise. How someone in today’s world can claim not to know “her left from her right” at that age is mind-boggling to say the least!
A person her age ought to have known that having an affair with a MARRIED MAN is like sailing through uncharted waters; the possibility of a ship wreck is 99 out of 100. This is even more so when the man you are having an affair with is your spiritual counselor. You just can’t claim that you were “rolling under the sheets” consensually with a man and say you were afraid or even suggest that you may have been in a trance-like state while you both had sex DAILY for over a week. Its absurd! She wasn’t kidnapped or forced to visit or stay in his hotel room. If she really had a conscience attack, she would have fled after the first bout and never returned. This is where I break it to you all that read her confession that she ENJOYED every bit of the encounter.
Her story brings to mind a video that went viral on social media early this year, the “power-enter” video. If she’s as educated as she would have the world believe, then she couldn’t have fallen for his charms if she didn’t want to. Her confession tells me something, she’s a dumb bimbo. #MonicaLewinsky alert!
The aim of this rejoinder of sorts is not to attack her person of course. Its just to point out what a good story it is…too good to be taken in its entirety as the truth. One thing I know is that you can never decide until you’ve heard both sides. Unfortunately, the possibility of hearing Pastor Fatoyinbo’s side of the story appears to be slim. If he indeed had an affair with Ese Walters, the honourable thing to do would be to own up to his mistakes and probably bar himself from representing himself as a minister of God.
Ese Walter’s allegation that he misled her is watery and not to be taken seriously because she misled herself. What any rational woman worth her salt would do after such advances have been made to her by a “man of God” would be to flee the man and his church. She wasn’t rational which leads me to only one conclusion; she was in love with him.
That being said, it is instructive to mention an observation. I have noticed that is not uncommon to have male student pastors in University Campus Fellowships flocked by women of easy virtue who claim to be in need of one form of counseling or the other. These supposed counseling sessions usually end up in another dimension when the threshold of self-restraint and discipline breaks. This unfortunate occurrence now seems to have solidified itself as rumours of pastors having sexual trysts with their members are rife.
The world is filled with all sorts of charlatans in frocks and collars. Salvation is personal and even more so especially as the guide book to a true relationship with God, the Holy Bible is still very much accessible. The truth about God does not lie in the actions or doctrine of any pastor or religious institution. Its in the Bible for you to see. As long as you are mature enough to know the difference between good and evil, you WILL NOT give in to any ridiculous doctrine peddled by swindlers in cassocks or more recently, suits except you want to, or you are too weak to resist them.
If you worship in a church where a watered down version of the gospel is preached, jump ship immediately. After all, variety is one thing we do not lack when it comes to churches in Nigeria. Don’t blame your excesses or weaknesses on the pastor who “betrayed” you because God gave you a brain to think, so use it! On the last day, everybody go answer e papa name. Pastor will not shoulder the blame for your sins because like you, he will stand before God to be judged accordingly.
Do not be deceived. God is not mocked.
Oh, yeah “cheers to the freaking weekend”. I’ll drink to that!
Malcolm O. Ifi.
To read Ese Walter’s confession, click the link below.
http://esewalter.wordpress.com/2013/08/22/my-affair-with-pastor-biodun-fatoyinbo-of-coza/
bekezed said:
I beg to disagree. You know the basic pastor/member, dr/patient, teacher/student fiducial relationship.
Being 40 doesn’t quite say you cannot be taken advantage of which to me, is Ese’s case and abused. She trusted him explictly and he abused that and for him to act like it doesn’t count?! Her guilt is a result of the total trust she’d felt.
There are tons of cases, tons and one come out to speak up and she’s what? Vincdictive? Please! Tis this Jesus saw and asked we particularly ask for the spirit of discernment.
Jet said:
Thank you so much for your reply, it’s comments such as Malcom’s dat make victims of abuse scared to talk, remember there is a fiduciary relationship involved. I’m wondering if it was your sister if your opinion would be different.
I applaud her for coming out if you read the blog very well you will know that she has admitted her guilt, even if she is bitter lets call a spade a spade, Pastor Biodun was wrong he is a man of God, he had a responsibility and he abused it, you have to try n put yourself in a situation before passing judgements. I agree Pastor Biodun is a man, but if it’s something that has been happening and the church couldn’t do anything about it but sweep it under the carpet, Then I’m Ese’s biggest fan.
The only reason I visit this blog is because of Mickey Jay so please can we have the next episode already.
pamela said:
U re very correct my dear! I’m not surprised….. Its possible she fell or is still in love with d man… Pls let’s not loose sight of d fact dat Ese didn’t hide d fact dat she has passed tru many abusive relationships…she is obviously an emotionally fragile person. I’m sure “man of god” know her story so she was definitely a vulnerable prey!
adebanjoesq said:
I would like to pitch my tent with Malcolm on this. How do you say you feel guilty of a serial sin? Something you did severally and wasnt remorseful then.
Ese is out for revenge of some sort and will not admit that. As the writer said, if you feel taken advantage of, then off you’ll go except you have another plan.
Dele said:
Bekezed, you mean to tell us now that as we speak (as in, right now), someone can take advantage of you?
arc jenny said:
Pls wat kind of trust would lead u to have sex with a married man, does she want to claim she didn’t know it was wrong, one thing God gave we women is dat we know wen a man wats to hit on us before he says anytin, she knew the journey was heading down dat road and she kept walking, pls she wasn’t abuse, malcom is right she knew wat she was doing and was very much in love wit him. She just didn’t get the result she wanted at the end
Fosee said:
My take : 1stly,even if Mr Pastors debunks her story,everything then boils down to accusations n counteraccusations;and when u hv such a scenerio the truth is but millions of miles away. 2ndly,u say the bible is the only guide to a true relationship with God,but I dare say only ur conscience can serve that purpose. Finally in the words of Flavour Flav(He got game) – “these r perilous times we living in Gee…” Rat die somewhere sha!!!
pamela said:
It will be self denial, hypocritical, absurd, grotesque to expect d brain to function under dis circumstance!! He was not a pastor she just ran into….he had creeped into her soul!! “I will teach u of a special grace” tHis phrase alone tells u a lot about d manipulative tendencies of d “pastor”!!! D modus operandi of Coza exhumes unseriousnes nd mockery on everything God stand’s for!!! I’m not surprised dis is coming from there!!
hephzibah said:
Partially my sentiments!she wasn’t forced neither was she coerced,she ought to run as fast as her legs cld carry her!its what I call d Joseph theory!it wld have saved a lot of heartache and drama in d long run.
The Good One said:
I also beg to disagree with this rejoinder. Ese in her story didn’t paint herself as the all holy type. Pastor Biodun wasn’t her first sex. But when she talked about being in a trance-like state, I perfectly understood her because I have experienced such. I have also experienced such trance-like state in one of my escapades.
And don’t tell me the Pastor didn’t make advances because if he hadn’t call her when he visited London, if he hadn’t asked her to make a Hotel arrangement, if he hadn’t invited her to his room, Ese, even in her sinful self, would not have slept with him. Tha pastor made advances, tha pastor is a very sexy man and to cap it all, a general overseer. Ese is not a virgin. Ese didn’t tell you that she is holy, Ese told us that she knows ‘what’s up’, so this same Ese succumbed to the sexual advances of the general overseer.
Her trance-like state during the ‘sit on the lap’ thing can easily be explained thus, “look at me, on the laps of Pastor Biodun, my general overseer”.
So keep your rejoinder because you don’t have anything to say.
saymalcolm said:
“Look at me, on the laps of Pastor Biodun, my general overseer”.
Really?! Seriously?!!! That’s your explanation?
Wow!
Ok.
cocosgist said:
I do not sympathise with Ese but I believe there is something called Undue Influence.
adebanjoesq said:
I would like to pitch my tent with Malcolm on this. How do you say you feel guilty of a serial sin? Something you did severally and wasnt remorseful at the time?
Ese is out for revenge of some sort and will not admit that. As the writer said, if you feel taken advantage of, then off you’ll go except you have another plan.
NK said:
Nope nope nope.
Malcolm, education has absolutely nothing to do with it. Trust me when I say until u r a victim u may never begin to understand. Pple in fiduciary relationships have a duty not to abuse the position they find themselves. U may believe she’s bitter, only she knows for sure her motive for this write up. He’s a married man, should he be sleeping with someoneelse aside his wife??? Not to talk of d fact he’s a pastor. Don’t even get me started on his ‘grace’ reasoning. Her story rings very true and she shd be applauded for calling d pastor out. Pple castigating her are d reason why victims of abuse never speak up. If a 40 year old man sleeps with a 16 year old girl and d girl ‘seemingly’ enjoys the act does it mean there’s nothing wrong with what d man has done? She ‘enjoyed’ it so its not abuse???. Ese may not be a victim of sexual abuse as some pple have pointed out but she’s a victim of abuse of power by someone who shd have been a spiritual mentor. Let’s see if d pastor will deny or affirm. She has a lot to lose so I strongly doubt she wud make this story up. Heck! She had a chance to make money off this pastor. A lotta girls wud milk dat pastor to keep their mouths shut. Whilst I do not absolve her of all blame I heap most of d blame on the pastors shoulders. As its been said…. man at his best is still man. Pple get carried away treating pastors as God. Some pple will still believe she seduced ‘their’ pastor and she is d Jezebel trying to pull the church down. Pray tell, what is he then???
Ari said:
Let’s be objective here: morally speaking it would be wrong for anyone to say the pastor is blameless, even as a mere married man. Again it took courage on Ese’s part to air the affair out. And yes, she may have been taken advantage of…but to rest on the assumption that she had no control over the situation is just bulls! And yes, education does have a role to play. If you are well educated (as I imagine she is), due consideration is expected – discernment before any action is taken, except under duress or intense feats of emotion that may serve to mar reasoning, thus pointing to some form of infatuation on Ese’s part for the pastor. That he may have taken full advantage of. You may hear the pastor say her expressively subtle teases led him on to the affair.
“He’s a married man, should he be sleeping with someone else aside his wife???” is a question for Ese as much as for the pastor himself. What Ese failed to understand is no matter how enticing it got (I doubt she’s admit that now) – even forget that he’s a pastor for a second – once you come to the reality that he’s a MARRIED MAN, just know it won’t end well for ya! She’s now crying foul cos as expected, it has all gone to shit! I tell u this, she’s only trying to hit him where it hurts. ’nuff said.
Anonymous said:
this is quite a very sad story but the worst thing about it is that the name of Christ is being dragged in the mud and thats where I have a problem with the so called “open confession”.it’s important that she speaks out but I blve there is a body governing the churches she cld have spoken to and the matter may have been dealt with but throwing caution to the wind and going on a smearing campaign (cs thats what it looks like even though that might not be the intent)gives it an undertone of personal vendetta and makes d testimony questionable……again this is just my opinion!
Dele said:
I don’t think the writer said the man isn’t in the wrong at all. What I can read from this article is that the girl wasn’t misled as she has rightly put it that she wasn’t “abused” or “raped” but “misled”.
Misled would then be: toasting, cajoling, sweet-talking. etc, all that requires “falling for the words” or follow or “agreeing to being led” as she said that she wasn’t “charmed” or in her words “jazzified”.
I believe both the pastor and the girl were immoral in the behaviour and should seek God’s face for forgiveness.
She’s bitter about the whole fornication/adultery experience and thinks its easier to heal herself by blaming the pastor. But no, she needs to seek God and not seek man again (for forgiveness, for confession, for anything). She is still seeking people’s approval, thats why she blogged.
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Tols said:
You are definitely entitled to your opinion but what I see is that of a man that doesn’t understand what women go through. Here is a case of lady that was abused she didn’t say raped. Abused because she had a low self esteem and that itself could be self destructive. And may I ask did u omit the guilty feeling part, did you omit the need for closure? If. You did I’d advise you return back to read the article again. I was once a worker in COZA and I must say a lot of her accusations I can realte to especially for a woman with low self esteem. Its just unfortunate that we live in a society that ignores the victim and celebrates the oppressor.
arc jenny said:
No one is celebrating the opressor but plssssss dat girl was not abused, she was not misled, if it happened once I might have under stood but a week!!!!!! Plsss she enjoyed it, wanted sometin perrmanent and didn’t get it. I am a church worker, I understand dat their are tins u see in the so called leaders dat just make u wonder. Pls there was no abuse At All
pastorcharles188 said:
I captured comments on this here: http://www.charlesawuzie.wordpress.com
kayode adesanya (@babakay777) said:
I BELIEVE WHAT ESE WANTS IS FOR THE MAN OF GOD TO OWN UP TO HIS MISTAKES. A LOT OF PASTORS HAS COME SHORT OF THIS INFIDELITY ISSUE HOWEVER THEY OWNING UP IS KEY.
ESE WANTS THAT, WHICH I BELIEVE MADE HER TALK TO ANOTHER PASTOR IN THE CHURCH. FELLAS SAYING SHE TR-YIN TO HURT HIM ARE JUST RIDICULOUS, IF SHE HAD COME OUT OF THE BLUES TO WRITE THIS,I WOULD HAVE AGREED .BUT, ITS QUITE OBVIOUS FROM HER ACCOUNT THAT EVERYTHING THAT TRANSPIRES WAS MEANT TO BE SWEPT UNDER THE CARPET BY THE ASSOCIATE PASTOR. HOW I WISH THE MAN OF GOD HAS COME OUT WITH A CONFESSION BEFORE THIS STORY BREAKS OUT. THIS IS BAD FOR THE CHURCH OF CHRIST AND IT WOULD LEAD A LOT INTO SUCH PATH, SOME BELIEVERS WOULD SAY “AFTER ALL MA PASTOR DOES IT, WHY SHOUDNT I” THIS IS JUST REALLY HEARTBREAKING.
I JUST PRAY THEY DON’T TRY TO FIX THIS BY SHUTTING HER UP BUT BY THE MAN OF GOD COMING OUT TO ADMIT HIS MISTAKES FOR ABUSING THE TRUST OF HIS DIVINE CALLING.HE WOULDN’T BE THE FIRST AND DEFINITELY NOT THE LEAST TO DO THAT.
NONETHELESS, MY OPINION WILL SUFFICE ONLY IF THE AFFAIR ACTUALLY HAPPENED.
FINALLY, ITS FUNNY HOW THE BLOGGER ATTACKS HER PERSON(ESE) AND THEN COMES IN THE LATTER PARAGRAPH TO SAY OTHERWISE. THAT’S IRONICAL. I’M SORRY BUT THAT’S THE TRUTH. I FEEL YOU ADDRESSING THE STORY AS IF THE MAN HERE IS A POLITICIAN OR SOME SECULAR PERSON. PERHAPS THAT’S BECAUSE YOU DON’T KNOW THE MAN OF GOD. IF IT WAS PASTOR ADEBOYE, BISHOP OYEDEPO, REV AREOGUN…ETC THAT WAS ACCUSED OF SUCH, I KINDA THINK YOUR LOOK AT THE ISSUE WILL BE TILTED TOWARDS THE MAN OF GOD AND NOT THE LADY, EVEN IF SHE SEDUCED THE MAN OF GOD! I BELIEVE WE SHOULD BE ABOUT THE MAN OF GOD TO ‘FESS UP!
SAY A WORD OF PRAYER FOR ARSENAL TODAY, IF YOU CAN. THANK YOU
ik said:
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Dele said:
IK, God bless you.
I dont need any man of God to tell me FORNICATION or ADULTERY is wrong. Without the Word of God sef, as human, we know it is in the wrong morally.
They fell for it. And she wants to blame her fault on the man for misleading her.
Girls that have fell for the “trance-like state” experience like Ese and “The Good One”…. let girls that have been lured but smart enough to FLEE talk and not immoral people like you using words like “trance-like state” or “misled” open their mouth to talk.
gikhidero said:
Excellent and lucid writing plus you make sense. Thumbs up.
ad said:
Ppl accuse d lady of all sorts without waiting to hear from d pastor. Wat if her account is true? let d pastor do d writing of an exhaustive essay abt d falsehood of her account on his blog.
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Obama said:
First of, so If she was your daughter you will blame her for not running? Interesting.
You rightly admitted in your article that people (wrongly) accept everything their pastors say as true. Which a lot of crooks (not pastors) have exploited mostly from the financial angle.
In addition you agreed that some persons even respect to the point of seeing their pastors as gods. Do you know what happens when a “god and subject” relationship exists? Let me remind you. The god figure commands and the subject obeys. Which is exactly what happened in this case.
I won’t judge the pastor either because he is a man and has his frailties. However, it is VERY obvious he exploited his position and the respect (or Love as you call it) Ese had for him.
??? said:
How exactly is it obvious that he exploited his position? We only have Ese’s account of the story, which if you try to be objective has too many holes (you can’t claim to have an affair and then say you are a victim at the same time…except a victim of stupidity)
What people are missing from Malcolm’s post- he is not condoning the pastor’s alleged actions – he is asking you to ask yourself – what if it isn’t completely true- what are her motives?
Ayo Fakunmoju said:
INFALLIBLE LIES 4: A wise man said, “A man has to see his END to know the purpose to his life.” Do you know your end?
Dear friend, God has made it very simple. The Bible says: Naked came I out of my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return THITHER (Job 1:21)
You have to return thither (your end is to return to your MOTHER’S WOMB); to return to where you started from. We are discussing spiritual things here, don’t start thinking like Nicodemus.
The original mother (Eve), came from Adam (father). The man was made first and the woman came out of him. So, to know your mother, your father (spiritual in this case) MUST point her out to you so that you can return naked into her womb, when you’re done here on earth, as a carnal man.
Since we are discussing spiritual issues, we need to understand who Jesus Christ called his mother? They that do the will of God (Matthew 12:48-50); that is, His true Church, bought with His own blood.
To be saved you MUST come to the TRUE CHURCH of God naked (sin makes man naked), to be clothed with Righteousness of the Living God, the Righteousness of His saints (Revelation 19:8). What are you clothed with? The righteousness of your Pastor, the Pope, Daddy G.O? Are you clothed with the righteousness of your church? Read what Apostle Paul says about such in Romans 10:3
ERROR: They teach us to seek our purpose so as to live a fulfilled life. A bunch of lies from the pit of hell!!!
THE TRUTH: This creation is not about you or all you aspire to be. Your end does not matter, your purpose is not an issue; look beyond yourself! It is God’s purpose that matters, it is God’s expected end that should rule your life. If you don’t know IT yet, then you are damned.
SEEK GOD’S EXPECTED END – Jeremiah 29:11 And WHAT is God’s expected end for you in this DISPENSATION OF GRACE? You will find this in INFALLIBLE LIES 5…. Coming soon!
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Olabisi said:
its well
Oareligbomi Gb said:
I counseled with a man of God on this issue and the first thing he mentioned was that the girl was been vengeful by going to the public with the story. She slept with this her boy yoyo for a week only to turn around and say she was abused. Common sense tells me there is an unrevealed side of the bargain that the boy yoyo did not live up to which spawned her spilling the beans.
As fornication cannot be restituted the best she could have done is to confess to God and seek at least a female pastor ( If there is no male pastor to trust) for counsel. Methinks there is nothing positive that the open confession will do for her except to soothe the ‘let me get back at him’ ego.
All said, the man is guilty of adultery and abuse of position . But God is the final judge!
yomi said:
The only reason why people view her as being a victim,is because we christains have deluded ourself to think because someone is a pastor,him/her commiting a sin is a grave offence and betrayal of trust,pastors will be judged on the last day just as members,God has no cader for a sinner.For every grace and spiritual position a pastor enjoys,all members are entitled to it also equally,only if they are wiiling to be led by the holyspirit and shun sin,and just because God has chosen a person as a vessel,doesnt mean the person is free from the temptation of sin.So my view is for the pastor to accept the allegations,step down from any pastorial role,beg for forgiveness from God and wait upon him. I dont see any pastor as sinless be it anybody,as long as the person is flesh.Ese was naive and succumbed to sin,the “pastor” was deceitful and succumbed to sin.Both are equally at fault.To me this does not paint christains badly,it only vindicates what he prophesised.Nobody was choosen from heaven to be a pastor,every christain is mandated to be an evangelist.the only difference amongst them is the level of the holy spirit they have.
pastorcharles188 said:
My American friend summits a link on #esewalterTales…
Thanks Smith for this link. You Americans know how to dig up history to judge a case.
When Ariel Castro kidnapped three of your American sisters, we all watched as journalists chased after his neighbours, friends etc to peep into Ariel Castro’s approach towards life…his perceptions…relationships…principles…ideals…
I have seen the content of this link and now I know better how #EseWalter saw life…Who she really is…OMG…
This link
http://esewalter.wordpress.com/2013/03/24/what-does-it-mean-to-believe/
justifies this link…
Please read both blogs carefully, think deeply about the intentions of Ese’s confession before commenting…
In the meantime, someone should tell Fulham to have some respect for Arsenal…
arc jenny said:
Malcom I sooo agree with u .she knew exactly wat she was getting into. She was very much in love wit him
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Anita said:
Nice piece u wrote here. I told the person who sent me the link 2 the story that there was more 2 it. She actually sounded like a jilted lover. Like she wanted something more but was denied that. May God help us all
awesomeinciter said:
Malcom, well said, Ese really is a bitter and heart broken woman, being that her story is rid with sentiments and emotions of a woman who feels scorned rather than Abused! You don’t roll in the sheet for one week and wake up to say you were used and or abused.
As a counsellor, this story won’t fly, am sorry to dissappoint the Ese advocates here, you can tell from the first reaction of a woman to a married man and or man of God if he used a woman by the first action that takes place, afterwards and if it continues, it was no longer an abusive act.
My take, I think she wants something and when she couldn’t get it, she decieded to use to abuse line, it won’t work Ese.
Anonymous said:
It seems she was expecting more than he gave her. D babe should go and sleep. She was in love and didn’t know where and when to draw d line btw her emotions and actions. He’s a man for goodness sake. She said she used to dress on point what was she expecting, to go unnoticed.
As a lady we can EASILY know a guy’s intention from what they say or do to us. But she ignored all of that and her intuition. If na antichrist who she go report to? If it was her boss, what would she have done? That he is a pastor doesn’t mean he is not human neither is he Jesus Christ. Make she no lie, she was also infatuated or in love with him. Its normal for most women to trip for their pastors and wish to get a taste of him. Salvation is personal and its end time so beware of false prophets. She fell in love with him and he disappointed her that’s all I see here. I read this recently and I think relates to this but no pastor is involved. Suck it up babe. We sometimes get dumped. U wanted love and didn’t get.
This is a lesson to women that we should be careful at every point and sensible and diplomatic. I feel this is uncessary cos he no jazz u but sweet tongue u like men of nowadays do to open your legs.
grey said:
After saying she was aware, wasn’t remorseful, bitter, enjoyed it……it still doesn’t change nothing! Most importantly it happened with a man who speaks with a forked tongue. She never claimed to be a saint…..neither has she said she wanted to order a can of sprite and he forced her to order alcohol. This young woman said it as it is. And whether we like it or not dude, she has brought liberation to many. Rreassuring us of what we know but sometimes telling ourselves that our intuition isn’t right….I know the state of mind dat she is @ right now. She probably thinks she has healed…..buh naaa. She could have written this story differently….buh she didn’t! She owes herself d truth and d truth is what she gave to u and I…..if u’ve never worn these shoes, u’ll never know! Same way she wld never or may never wear the shoes that u hv worn. Loved him or not….it did happen, money for tithe is used for all sorts! Smh.
Cese said:
Clearly, there is so much you don’t understand and are trying to understand. You say they see the pastors as god. Does anyone argue with God? Can you say no to God? She trusted him, he abused that trust.
For those saying it is not abuse because it went on for days, you don’t understand the term ‘abuse’. You can repeatedly abuse a person.
JERRY said:
I read the ese walter story and like most readers tried to figure out what exactly was going on here..malcolm and i seem to hold similar views as to the truth which we’d never know for sure. I am Grateful to ese walters though for helping me overcome my idolising men of God as demigods whom hold my fate in their hands,that said,i also think she’s brave but unfortunately she has also held back alot of details inorder to appear decent and less guilty that makes her confessions a bit more than about conscience and repentance,i think ese walters was used by that pastor but i also think she allowed it because she was infatuated with him or worse fell in love with him,my theory is he moved on to other women and she got jealous or she wanted more which he was unable to give so she became angry because one thing is clear ese walter was and is still angry and in her blind anger went blogging period.
ade said:
Well said. She got attached and she is a very jealous and possessive somebody
Kemmystry said:
Hey Malcolm,
I just thought you should see this, if you haven’t already.
Cheers!
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azuka echekoba said:
Please was she drugged and forced into the hotel room and was tied to the bed naked for all those period..I see this as a consensual agreement between two matured people..Much as I defending the so called pastor Ese knew what she was going in for…What she didn’t plan was FALLING in LOVE with this Man..
What o see is a lady that gave an unrequited love so she’s fighting with all she had..
As the pastor, I hope his wife and church will handle matter well so that others will learn from it..
a few confessions said:
I know this happened a long time ago but reading comments I am inclined to ask what is abuse and have we silently in the name of abuse removed responsibility. We are eresponsible for our actions all of us and choices we make. Most times we do not want to admit it. A long time ago I became involved with a cousin he was older and I am sure people would have said he took advantage of me no he did not I remember the first time he touched me I cried but I never spoke to anyone about it and kept going back to him every time and as crazy as it sounds I kinda loved him. Mind you I knew this was wrong I prayed cried begged for forgiveness but yet this went on for years I was fiercely jealous of his girlfriend. I came to a point when I realised the dangers of this liason it would continue for years even while we were both in rlshp it was like a drug an addiction. When I choose to walk away from it I did and never elooked back not for one day. We all have choices and can tell right from wrong but often times we enjoy what we are doing. Secondly God egives us the sense to walk away it is no excuse to say he is a pastor. If he wasn’t a pastor but rather a wealthy married man would we say she was abused? I don’t think so. Someone asked if she was your daughter would you say to same thing I would I will hold my child responsible for her actions because she was a willing participant.we are not brainless people or spineless or without commonsense we need to teach our children responsibility and accountability you are responsible for what happens to you not any other person.That is why we have bibles what is sin is clear to us even scriptures admonish us to flee from all appearances of sin if it looks like it it definitely is take to your heels and run.